I am going to remind you all about a single mental action that has the power and potential to improve almost any situation you will ever face. I use the word ‘remind’ because this concept is not going to be new to you. Guaranteed you will have heard of what I am about to tell you all before. The problem which so many people face is not that they don’t know what it is but rather they simply do not know how to harness its power.
This cerebral exercise provides opportunity to propel you down the path to incredible, limitless success. So what is it?
It’s called a decision.
The art of decision making is responsible for making or breaking many life paths. Take a moment to consider it for yourself. What has brought you to this very moment?
A collection of decisions which you have made over the course of your lifetime to date. That is what has brought you to this moment. Not circumstances, not experiences but your decisions.
Individuals who have learnt to master the skill of decision making without being influenced by the opinions and prejudices of others are the ones who have sustained fulfilment, limitless success and genuine, authentic happiness in their lives.
Decisions dominate all areas of your life. You cannot escape them. Decisions determine your relationships, your connections, your mind and body health, your possibilities. Your ability to make sound, effective decisions set these areas in motion.
For quite some time now I have wondered how it is even possible to argue that anything else is even close to being as important as decision making. Especially, given how far reaching it can be. And yet, this is a skill most of us almost never learn to master. We aren’t taught it in schools and the majority don’t receive education on it in the workplace. Instead, we are left to figure it out ourselves. For the few that do, they succeed and for the rest, well, we struggle through life at the peril of indecision. At least, until we learn to master it.
Let’s talk about ambivalence for a moment.
Ambivalence is when you experience internal conflict in regards to the same objective. Meaning that you often suffer mixed feelings or contradictory ideas. Ambivalence leads to a severe lack of productivity which is not a true state of living. At best, you are merely existing. Not moving forward, just coasting through. Indecision creates this state of mind.
Decision making is the process which brings order to your thoughts and your mind which then in practice is reflected in the physical world through your results. Without this practice you are setting yourself up for endless internal conflicts, which without any warning derail your progress and escalate into all sorts of mental challenges.
According to the law of the universe, you must create or disintegrate. Indecision breeds disintegration.
Take a moment to think about all the times you have found yourself thinking “I don’t know what to do” or even asking “what should I do?”.
Dominate indecision
There are probably many times that you can recall where you felt these indecisive feelings. I know for myself I can remember many times before I learnt this information where I too was a slave to my own uncertainty. What I didn’t know at the time was that my indecisiveness was fuelled by doubt and severe lack of confidence. What I now know is that the most successful decision makers that exist in the world and throughout history had an incredible sense of self. Very strong self esteem, immense confidence in themselves and grounded connection with their inner being.
You see, the thing is, indecision offends stems from the fear of failure or making errors. People worry so much about making the wrong decision that they make no decision at all. Imagine the change you could make in your own life right now if you didn’t worry about getting it wrong….
Successful decision makers are not afraid of making errors. Their trust of themselves gives them the ability to shrug off any error or failure they might face and learn from the experience. No longer permanently taken down by the mishap.
Decision making is not something you can avoid.
It is a skill that you must dedicate the time to learn, understand, practice and master. If you are someone reading this and thinking “wow I am always very indecisive”, make the decision right now to learn this new skill.
Start making decisions for yourself to avoid the onset of ambivalence. You have the choice and power to make this decision now, for yourself and put the steps in motion to regain control over your own outcomes.
Enjoy!
x Spritz Mindset
